We already know that sex is one of the key factors of a happy and healthy relationship. Aside from that, we cannot deny the fact that sex is important to us women, as it gives us that amusing kind of glow, bliss, and could sometimes even make us even feel younger after a night of awe, excitement and spice! But, it is undeniable that menopause also has sex related problems. What do we do about it?
So when we start having sex related problems, it affects us greatly. Some even reach the point of depression. Like for tons of menopausal women who encounter pain instead of pleasure when having sex. It sometimes gives us a devastating feeling and thought that we can no longer satisfy the need of our significant other and we are even unable to give pleasure to ourselves.
It is more than important to find ways of how we could fight these sex related problems in menopausal that affects the quality of life of many women by robbing us a chance of orgasm, which our body naturally needs. This section will let us find the roots of the problem and pull it one by one. Find solutions to the hurdles and gain back the excitement and ecstasy towards sex.
Why does sex become painful?
25-50% of menopausal women, post- and peri-, is said to experience painful sex. The fancy term for painful intercourse is dyspareunia. This is mostly caused by vaginal atrophy, or shrinking of cells and eventually death of cells in the reproductive organs that will not be replaced. This is due to the low levels of estrogen in menopausal women that consequences to lesser moisture produced by the vagina where the organ also becomes less elastic. No wonder why friction results to pain and burning sensation.
Aside from pain in intercourse, vaginal atrophy also sometimes leads to soreness and inflammation. When inflammation or irritation appears, vaginal discharge may as well follow due to infection. The discharge is usually yellow and smelly that’s quite unpleasant. Some urinary problems are also connected with vaginal atrophy because the neck of the urinary bladder or the urethra (where the urine passes) thins and weakens. As a consequence, there will be urgency to go to the toilet, urinary incontinence or recurring urinary tract infection.
Relieving the Pain in Sex Related Problems
Hormonal products that help relieve vaginal dryness contain estrogen that though inserted in vagina, is absorbed systematically by the body. They are not vaginal lubricants but rather a medication that provides much more longer effect of vaginal moisture. It works like the plumping products that prevent the thinning of the cells and retain moisture, and also provides relief to other menopausal symptoms aside from vaginal atrophy. Though the side effects greatly varies on each individual, these medications that exist as vaginal rings, vaginal tablets or creams, oral pills and patches. They also come with side effects like breast tenderness, headache, stomach upset and bloating. Most of the products need prescription before you can buy them. Some of the estrogen-containing products are Premarin, Ogen and Estring.
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Lubricants and Moisturizers
- Typically, the first solution to relieve the pain in intercourse is with the use of lubricants. This will provide moisture that the vagina needs. Water-based products are preferable because they are less sticky and offers a more natural feel.
- Bacteriostatic gel and surgical gels are also recommended because they discourage bacterial growth. These products are sterile and most of the time water-based. Though the drawback is some may have allergic reactions to surgical lubricants.
Guess what? You can also find natural lubes at home! These products exist as natural oils and have been used for centuries as sexual lubricants as long as they are non-allergenic. Some women prefer oil-based substances because they trap moisture in skin and make the skin more elastic.
The drawbacks of these products are they can deteriorate condoms and diaphragms, and they are not sterile compared to the lubricants sold at pharmacies. Some of the lubes you have at home are coconut oil, baby oil and olive oil. You can test these products before using them by applying them on the side of your elbow’s skin and see if it gets red or irritated. If it does, remove it in the list and never use it as an alternative lube.
Vaginal preparations such as Replens can effectively bring back the moisture of vagina and relieve dryness by preventing the thinning of the cells. They plump up the cells, which will retain more moisture and therefore are able to secrete more vaginal wetness when stimulated. These products could be applied on the surface of the irritated skin by using fingertips or could be inserted internally by using an applicator. Their effects that last longer than lubes, but they should not be used at the time of penetration.
Soaps and products that you use to wash your genitals could also affect its moisture. Avoid harsh soaps, bubble bath, or bath oils because they can dry up the skin. For hygienic use, prefer feminine wash or mild soap that has a pH similar and gentle to the genital’s surface. You might also want to wash your delicate part with warm water that provides a soothing effect.
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There are several natural products that would help you regain your lust just like the old days. If you have sex-related problems, you can now see better days! The good catch is because they are not synthetic unlike other conventional products, unwanted side effects are probably few.
Look at the list and see what might get your attention:
Sarsaparilla grows in tropical forests of Central and South America that is said to possess aphrodisiacal properties.
Tribulus a flowering plant that can be found in warm regions like Europe, Southeast Asia, Africa and Australia.
It is a shrub used as an aphrodisiac even by the old Mayan tribes. It’s native in southwestern parts of Mexico,
It’s a shrub native to Mediterranean areas, and also one of the wonder herbs that help women in menopause by balancing the hormones and eventually eliminating its signs. This helps increase libido by amplifying sensitivity levels and stimulating natural lubrication of the genitals.
Other Ways to Regain a Fiery Sex Life
Focus On the Right Point
One of the mostly missed factors to resolve the problem of vaginal dryness is taking time on foreplay. Rushing to the big act without enough arousal could cause pain in friction, as there is not enough moisture that makes the intercourse more pleasurable. So spend more time on foreplay, caress more and wait until you are wet enough. Some even suggest that it is better to initiate the main act after an orgasm. You and your partner could also spice it up a little more by experimenting on new positions or places and time. Talk with your partner about your fantasies and the things you like to do. Be open about what feels good and what doesn’t.
Use It Or Lose It
Having more and frequent sex is true for the health of your sex organs. Regular intercourse improves the blood flow of the organs, improves the organ’s elasticity and moisturizes the organs therefore avoiding dryness. If penetration or other sex acts brings too much pain, self-pleasure is advised.
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